Adult therapy
As a psychologist, I offer psychotherapy services to help you surpass a psychological impasse in which you may find yourself. This can be related to burnout from work, depression, relationship problems (with your spouse, at work, with friends, etc.).
To this end, I use the cognitive-behavioral approach. This approach aims to understand how a person's ways of thinking and acting are related, and how they influence his or her psychological well-being. While I may during this process, use an understanding of events in a person's history, my approach, aimed at change, is focused on the present.
The conditions for success and self-fulfillment surpass the elimination of immediate problems. Thus, in order to achieve lasting changes, the person often has to opt for a questioning of his behavior, his attitudes, his perceptions in his life in general. This may call for changes in lifestyle, work, relationship choices, etc.).
Developed in psychology since the last decade, this approach comes from "positive psychology". It aims to understand the conditions that contribute to self-fulfillment. Once the psychological impasse has been resolved, the aim is to help the person give a new meaning to his life or take new challenges. It also involves helping the person achieve a better balance of life, within a framework aimed at health and psychological well-being on a daily basis.
Couple relations: Are we meant for each other?
The choice of our partner depends on how we seek a person with a given attachment style to complement our attachment. There are three styles of adult attachment:
- Secure;
- Avoidant;
- Anxious.
It is important to know our attachment style in order to see if we are compatible emotionally with the person we wish to develop a relationship with. Non compatible attachments may lead to intense and exciting relationships in the moment, but rarely provide the serenity and stability necessary to build a long-term relationship as the two people do not have the same attachment needs.
Anxiety and depression
Our thoughts influence how we feel. If we pay attention to negative, pessimistic thoughts or emphasize what is wrong, our mood will become more depleted.
Our expectations work a bit like personal predictions or expectations as to what might happen. These expectations channel our attention to aspects of a given situation or person, much like if we were wearing green sunglasses and saw everything around us green.
If you perceive that something will go well, your behaviors and emotions will often agree with this expectations. You will be in a good mood, positive, and you will have energy. In return, your energy will have an impact on those around you who will respond positively. Our predominant thoughts can be revealed in our inner language, or what we say to ourselves ...
Observe the words you use to describe your experience. What are the words you hear most often about an uncertain outcome? Are they energizing or do they discourage you?
Life balance: How to maximize your potential
The approach used offers you a different way of viewing your psychological health from the notion of reaching "life balance".
So far, have you had the impression that you live your life according to the expectations of others and have often given up your dreams for lack of concrete means to reach them?
Do you want to give a new direction to your life? Do you want to reach new heights? Do you want to surpass yourself and dare new things?
The achievement of your goals depends on a proper balance that presupposes harmony between four essential areas of your life:
- Your work:
Developing your resources to accomplish your goals. - Your physical health:
Developing concrete ways to improve your physical health. - Your relationships with friends, family, or partner:
Developing authentic and meaningful relations with your loved ones and the people you connect with each day. - Your psychological happiness:
Becoming aware of your thoughts that prevent you from achieving what you want most in life and fostering constructive thinking processes that will help you attain your goals.
Boost your self-esteem: Self-confidence and self-assertiveness
The process of developing self-esteem starts in childhood and continues throughout life. It can be enhanced by everyday behaviors such as:
- I forgive myself and learn from my experiences.
- I accept myself, yet I am open to self-improvements.
- I respect myself by expressing my opinions. I assert myself. I say what I want. I express myself when I disagree. When possible, instead of wanting to please, I develop being more authentic
- I surround myself with people who are able to encourage my goals yet able to give me constructive feedback.
- I treat myself the way I want others to be with me. The process starts with me.
